Take Back Your Personal Power Stop Being Blamed And Start Creating An Incredible Life

Take Back Your Personal Power Stop Being Blamed And Start Creating An Incredible Life

Have you ever had a person in your life who literally thrived on playing the blame game? You know the ones that are constantly belly aching that it’s your fault? Then you actually believe them, so you play the game of fixing all of their problems! You become the rescuer? I did! I didn’t realize it at the time of course because that is a life lesson that I was working on mastering and boy did we play a good game together! We danced in victim consciousness together creating disaster after disaster for ten years! He created, I rescued! He created, I rescued! Then one day he got himself in another situation (and of course this was all my fault!) I was so sick and tired of continually putting forth all my energy into fixing his problems that I threw in the towel. I quit. That’s the day the light bulb came on! I realized that I was not allowing him to take responsibility for his own life. I was doing him the worst service possible. I was dis-empowering him! I was taking his power away by fixing all his problems not to mention dis-empowering myself! That’s the day I gladly, and I mean gladly, handed him his life back on a gold lined platter! Ahh to peace once again!

Blamers are people that refuse to take any kind of responsibility for their own lives. When things go wrong in their life they tend to blame other people. Whether something goes wrong at home, work or school they try to find someone else to blame. I have found they tend to blame those that love them the most. Why? Because these will be the first people to ‘fix’ their problems and become their rescuers. Blamers will rarely admit to their own problems. Typically the statements you will hear from them are “It wasn’t my fault.” “How was I suppose to know?” “It’s your fault.” etc. Their dialogue usually goes something like this. “If only you had done something differently, then I wouldn’t be in the predicament that I’m in. It’s your fault.”

By blaming other people for the problems in their life, they become powerless to change anything. Their thoughts hold them in victim consciousness. They believe and hold thoughts of.


All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him/her it will not change you.

It’s easy to blame other people. It lets us avoid responsibility. And our minds are already predisposed to do it. But if we only focus on changing others, we’ll still be left with the same problems. Taking responsibility is a hard choice. It puts us on the hook. It forces us to take responsibility. And it makes us remember that because every problem can be actionable — there’s no excuse for not taking action.

Taking responsibility and refusing to blame others may be a hard choice. “Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.”


 It  makes our life stagnant : It’s a fact of life that failure is our greatest teacher. We learn from our mistakes when we accept them and try to transform ourselves so as to not go down the same road again. This way we evolve into a better version of ourselves. It's ok to be failure because at least we learn  something and become better version of ourselves.

 It gives power to someone else: Blaming in other words is allowing someone else to do the rest. We give someone else the power to make us feel disgusting or bad or whatever they would like us to feel. We hold someone on the top most staircase of blocking our happiness.

It makes us negative: When we blame, we automatically enter the negative zone.  It makes us a negative person from top to bottom. We shell out only what went wrong or what the person didn’t do or what life didn’t turn out to be. Whatever we say in that aspect has to be all negative.

It makes us victim : Walking on the path of blaming is the act of victim-hood. Because only those people who are tired of life and feels there is no way they can help themselves blame the rest of the world.

It generates fear and destroys trust :  When we blame, we often believe that other people have bad intentions or lack ability. We tend to excuse our own actions.  

when we blame, we are not in the present : when we are in blame, we are not in the present. It is not particularly helpful to live in the past. I know how hard it can be to live in the present when the situation is uncomfortable or stressful but it is the present moment that is before you. You cannot change the past you can only change the present.

Thanks for reading.

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