He Doesn’t REALLY Want the Perfect Woman
He Wants These 3 Things from You Instead…
How much time do you
spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want?
All this time presenting
yourself as fun, interesting, worldly, and not needy in the slightest. You
spend all this time showing him just how good you’d be for him… How amazing his
future would be if he chose you as the woman by his side…
And it doesn’t work. It
never works. WHY? Why do you work so hard… And the guy in your life just takes
you for granted, if he even notices you at all? It’s probably because he’s
immature, right? He can’t recognize a good thing until it’s gone. Or maybe… It’s
because you’ve been doing all the work for him.
If He Doesn’t Work for Your Relationship, He Won’t Value It
Fact:
What men value most are
those things they have to work hard to get.
Hand a man a college
diploma, and he won’t value it as much as if he’d had to put in years of study
and effort to earn it.
Hand a man the perfect
girlfriend, and he won’t value her as much as if he’d had to woo her for weeks
just to get her to go out with him. This is why playing hard to get works.
But, as you’ve probably
already noticed…
There’s a BIG problem
with playing hard to get. That strategy stops working once he’s actually got
you.
Something happens when
guys decide they’ve won you. It’s almost like they think, “Game over.” Their
minds are already on their next challenge. What is going on?!
And how can you stop it
from wrecking your relationship?
It’s Not Just You—ALL Women Experience This
(That’s Why They Ask for Help)
Many women give up on
love. They never let themselves get too close to a man, for fear of scaring him
off. But other women try a different approach. They get help. Relationship
coach James Bauer is one of the people they turn to.
Something would change
overnight.
A guy who’d been warm,
affectionate and interested would suddenly become distant. He’d no longer have
any time for her. He wouldn’t smile in greeting. He’d stop making eye contact.
His kisses were brusque. Wanting to help his clients, James investigated.
It didn’t come down to
anything wrong with these women.
Rather, it all came
down to something he called “The Hero Instinct.”
Most Women Do Something that Drives Men Away…
Without Ever Realizing It
One of the most wonderful
things about women is how naturally caring they are.
Look at you. You’re
always there for your guy. You look after him. You always make time for him.
You’d do anything for him.
You never realize that,
in the process…
You’re actually taking
something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.
You see, he wants to be
your hero. He doesn’t want you to be his hero.
Men love heroes. Look at
how many grown men are still fascinated by Marvel comics and superhero movies.
Most men don’t get to
indulge their world-saving side in their 9-5 jobs.
Circumstances don’t call
for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing
their superman side. Maybe they can’t save the world. But they can still get
the girl.
A girl who needs a hero.
Do You Need a Hero? Let me guess… That’s not you.
You’re strong. You’re
independent. You can fix a leaky faucet. You can drive a stick shift. You can
take care of yourself. You’re never going to make that Jerry Maguire mistake of
looking for a man to complete you.
Instead, you have a lot
to offer a man. You’re generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault. All you want
is to find a man who’s willing to receive all you have to give.
3 Ways You Can Invite a Hero into Your Life, Starting Today
1. Ask a guy for help.
2. Take pleasure in male company.
3. Let him earn your respect.
The Strangest Thing Men Desire. (And how it can make him crazy for you.)
Have you ever felt attracted to a guy without knowing why?Maybe you’ve even had feelings for someone you’d rather not be attracted to. Why does this happen?
How can you fall in love even though your conscious mind resists it?
Experiences like these hint at the hidden world driving our feelings of romantic attraction. That hidden world is all about emotional reactions. Emotional reactions we don’t consciously control.
The truth is, falling in love is not something we choose to do. It’s more like getting thirsty. You don’t choose to get thirsty. You just notice it. And the stronger your thirst becomes, the harder it gets to ignore.
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